You know that old saying "when it rains, it pours?" I think that would pretty accurately describe my life these days. Thank goodness for unlimited texting, free long distance, and decent calling plans, or my cell phone bill would be astronomical. It's great to have options, that's for sure. But do you know what's really great about them? Having options lets you stack up the competition. Instead of settling for Mr. Good Enough, I can compare them all and make (hopefully) better decisions. So far, it's working quite nicely. It's amazing how having one or two legitimate options can help you to quickly and easily realize that others aren't right for you and that it's time to cut ties and move along.
In most cases, I knew I wasn't feeling it for someone or was no longer feeling the same way about someone I once thought had potential (case in point - someone said to me "you could do better" and my immediate, verbal response was a matter-of-fact "I know".... this has happened twice in the last month). But then I'd start getting bored with life and start thinking of the ones waiting in the wings, the guys I knew I could call when life got me down for happy conversation and maybe some shameless flirting. You know what? That's never a good idea. I've never liked being the girl who was called when there were no other options, and I don't like the thought of doing that to someone else. That's just not cool for anybody. So if I did that to you, my apologies. And if you're doing that to me, STOP IT! I'd rather not hear from you at all than only hear from you when you're bored/lonely. So there I was, in this funk, surrounded by guys who created a level of excitement that could best be described as "meh"...
And then the phone rang....
I can't tell you how long it's been since I've gotten a call or text or fb message or whatever that had me flustered, but it was one of those. Think back for a minute to when you were 13 and that cute guy at school said hi to you by your locker or passed a note to you in class. Do you remember how it felt to have those butterflies in your stomach? Or to tell your friends every detail of what seemed like the biggest moment of your life, all while squealing "OMG!!" and giggling like crazy people? Or going weak in the knees when he walked by? (Or giving him a code name so you could talk about him with him standing right next to you, none the wiser? ..... No?? Maybe it was just me & my friends.)
That feeling is AMAZING!! I forgot what it was like to have those teenager-ish feelings about someone, as it's probably been 6 years or so since someone made me giddy like a schoolgirl. Then I started to wonder where those feelings have been all this time. I've been single for about 3 years now and have obviously been on dates in that time, but I find it difficult to think of one guy who made me that excited. Lately, my pre-date routine has involved waiting until the last possible second to get ready and throwing on whatever is clean. In some cases I even put on blush and mascara, but full makeup has been a rare thing. Nobody has really felt worth the effort.
I feel like I'm now able to see that more clearly than I had been. No more wasting anyone's time with thoughts of settling for someone who is just sort of ok. If you text me and all I can think is "ugh... I was in the middle of a nap," then it's time to move on. Those guys who aren't right will now be forever relegated to the dreaded friend zone. If they're cool with that, then great. Just know that when I ask for help moving furniture, it's not a euphemism and there will be no special thank you's for a job well done.
As for this new man with potential, maybe something will happen and maybe it won't. Either way, I'm excited to see what the future has in store and I refuse to settle because I know Mr. Right is still out there somewhere.
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