Moving on... My current experiment is going well. I've gotten better messages from guys as a result of my blunt profile. I've also noticed, though, that I'm not getting the winks (yay) or generic messages I got last time around. Maybe it's because these guys don't want to bother when I've spelled out what I want so clearly, as they know they don't fit the description. Maybe the fact that I'm not presenting myself as some girl-next-door guy-pleasing airhead is keeping away a whole crop of weirdos. I don't really know why, but I like it regardless. I do know that the process appears to be moving somewhat slower this time around, perhaps because I'm not dealing with tons of messages from guys I'm not interested in and am instead having more meaningful conversations with people with actual potential.
That doesn't mean I haven't heard from nutcases, though. Unfortunately for some of these guys, my brain remembers strange things, like birthdays of people I haven't spoken to in years and, more importantly, usernames. So the couple of guys who contacted me the first time around that I wasn't interested in were people I certainly remembered when I got messages from them in the last few days. Examples - remember that guy who called himself "sexy" in his username but was actually far from it? He made a comeback. So did the guy who sent me multiples of the same message saying he was leaving the site. He sent me another one saying, yet again, that he only had a few more days and I should email him. In reality, he's probably only doing the free trial which wouldn't let him see messages sent to him. If that's the case, say it! Don't lie and say you're leaving when clearly you haven't left yet and it's been 6 months.
One of my favorites was from a new guy who saw on my profile that I wanted to find a man of at least 26 years, but was only 25. He sent me a message begging me to give him a chance because he owns a house and is reliable. I responded saying that my age range wasn't set arbitrarily, but out of trial and error, and that I would not grant him that exception. His response? "I'll be 26 in a year." Ok... and I'll be 29 in a year, at which point my minimum age will rise to 27. This guy also lost points for friend requesting me on facebook prior to sending me a message through the site. My last name and email address aren't listed on the site, but my first name is. All I can figure is that this little detective searched through all the women with my first name in our town until he found me. You better believe I called him out on the creepiness of that shit.
Other than that, the site has been letting me down by continuing to match me up with guys I already know. I kid you not, it's been 6 days and I've been matched with 4 guys from my hometown and 1 guy I dated in college. I'd say this defeats the purpose, though someone else said that maybe the site is trying to tell me I don't need to go online to find someone new because I already know plenty of great guys.
On a more promising note, I've been exchanging messages with a couple of guys with some level of potential. We've gotten to that stage where it's time to meet in person to see what would happen. I'll surely let you know what happens if/when we meet.
Here are the current stats:
- Page views - 189
- Emails - 18
- Winks (ugh) - 20
- IM conversations - 3
- Guys who have added me to their favorites - 1 (someone deleted me... I know who it was, and this is actually a great thing)
- Phone numbers acquired - 3
- Guys who requested the link to my blog - 4
- Dates planned - 0 (as in time & place; can't tell you how many times I've heard "we should meet up")
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